One of the most Primal human need is to feel in control.
To know in advance what is going to happen. We have a strange desire to seek
the future. Humans spend a considerable amount of time and an awful lot of
money in trying to predict the future. Right from our obsession with
Nostradamus to astrology to tarot reading to complex financial software to
predict the next big move on the stock market, we are just so occupied and
obsessed with knowing the future. Since times and ages, mankind has always tried
to know the future.
Most of our time is spent in Dreaming and thinking about
future events. All our happiness and fears rely heavily on our ability or
inability to comprehend the future. We build our castles in the future, we buy
our cars in the future, we dream of a wonderful life in the future, we see a
very healthy version of our self in the future.
We continuously try to build a very happy and KNOWN future
for ourselves in our minds. In the same manner, all our fears and hesitations
and inhibitions also lie in the future or are centered around the future. We try
and build the future and at the same time, we are scared about it. We understand
the reality or the fact that no matter how hard we try we just cannot control
what is coming. This helplessness makes us very uncomfortable because somehow,
we always want to feel in CONTROL.
DO WE BEHAVE IN THE PRESENT?
Even a cursory look at the present in your life of my life
shows a very startling fact. Almost everybody in their present moment seems to
be playing a very safe and secure game. Although we are building the dreams in
our head, we are not living them in our daily lives. We don’t seem to be
preparing or executing the groundwork for those dreams.
Our desire to be in control, to know everything in advance
makes us stick to the known, the safe, the predictable. You will see
people going to jobs that they don’t like, people in relations that are not at all
fulfilling and at times abusive, talented people wasting their time in some
mundane jobs, highly skilled people with lots of potential wasting it all away,
talented children receiving the same school education that their parents
THIS BECAUSE WE ARE TOO AFRAID OF THE UN-KNOWN.
We are too fearful to take risks; we are terrified
of people or events that are not predictable. We despise the thought of being
in a situation where we don’t know what is going to happen. We hate being in a
situation where we don’t know how things will turn out. So, we continue with
whatever condition we are in, even though it may not be the ideal situation. We
tend to stick to situations and people who are known because that makes us feel
safe and secure. It gives us a sense of control. Good or bad, at least we know
what it is.
We love the known, no matter how bad it is. We hate the
Unknown even if it is full of possibilities or gives us a better life.
So now we are faced with a terrible push and pull in our
lives. Our basic instinct is to be in a known environment, whereas the future
by nature is completely unknown. There are millions of variables that are
beyond our control. We have all our dreams in our future, all our goals in the
future, all our achievement to come will be in the future and at the same time
we are terrified about the future because we don’t feel in control.
Now if you look at any success story, it is almost always
a story of jumping into the unknown. A success journey is a Travelogue into the
unpredictable and yet exciting road. All successful people at some point in
their life decide to take the LEAP OF FAITH. There comes a time when they
realize that they can no longer continue within the safe confines to TODAY.
They realize that LIFE IS ALSO ABOUT the next moment which inherently is
unpredictable. All success journey is a jump into the unknown.
They start with a few rupees or none, a small idea a faint
picture of tomorrow, a rough business plan or maybe a few lines of code. It all
starts like this. Nothing is perfect, nothing is known, nothing is absolutely
clear. Every success journey starts with this JUMP.
This first person to make an Aeroplane or the light bulb,
the first person to reach Mount Everest or the Moon, the first person to make a
car or build a computer it all started with a leap of faith, a jump into the
darkness, a flight into the unknown. Every love story you see begins with just
a few heartbeats. It a jump into the darkness into the unknown. Every
successful friendship started like this. Every successful venture started like
To really lead a fulfilling life at some point in your
life you will have to move into the unknown sphere. We all have to enter a
phase where we do not know what will happen, where we take risks, where we jump
with faith, where we are no longer in control, where we can predict the
outcome. To be really LIVING we must enter an unknown phase. We must cease to
continue living in a safe and secure environment.
The present is known, within our control, clearly visible
to us. We could be having a safe job or a predictable business, we may have
children and families and a routine life where almost all the days start in the
same fashion and end on the same note. We could be having a life like this and
this could feel nice too.
However, the human spirit is meant to soar in the skies,
to fly above and achieve greatness, to scale mountains and reach the moon, to
make new inventions, to start new businesses, to advance the human race
forward. This is what the human spirit is capable of.
So now the question to you today is:
Are you playing too safe?
Are you just building your dreams in your mind and at the
same time looking for safety and security?
Can you at some point take the plunge into the unknown?
If not now then when would you take YOUR LEAP OF FAITH?